There has been a fair amount of discussion lately, in the Gaurdian and on some blogs about Porn and things related to the adult industry. I thought I will add my two cents worth in.
First off, Porn.
Personally I do not think there is anything essentially wrong or demeaning about professionally produced porn where all the participents are willing. Obviously, the harder edges of the genre, such as exploitative and demeaning porn is inherintly wrong. For the purposes of this discussion I am not talking about that.
A good blog to read about the adult industry is by former adult actress Penny Flame. I can not in all honesty say that is true of all adult actresses but it does prove that it is possible. Jenna Jamieson made millions by tightly controlling what she would do and how she would do it.
Secondly, the role of the man in straight porn is often over looked. It is a well established fact that they are paid less than the women in the films and are only paid if they ejaculate (hence the term, The Money Shot). Due to the inteded, but not exclusively, male audience the camera focuses on the woman. The man is there to maintain an erection and come on cue. He is little more than a dildo with a water cannon.
However, the more you read the above mentioned blog the more damaged she seems. The consumption of porn made by willing adults amongst willing adults whether on their own or as a prop in foreplay is acceptable. For every one Jenna Jamieson they may be two Traci Lords or Linda Lovelace.
When I was younger I would frequent strip clubs on a less than frequent basis. This was much to the distaste of several of my female friends. I would reason that since the men in the room had to pay entry fees, expensive drink prices and £10-20 per dance they were the ones willingly being exploited. I read “Living Dolls” by Natasha Walters and it didn’t really change my opinion. Especially since I would point out that she neglected class and made the women seem like victims. Anyway, between consenting adults I would say it is all right. If you want to dance and if you want to fork out then be my guest.
In any area of life you do have examples of people being forced into situations against their will.
My opinion has changed, this is mainly due to fact that, if anything. I myself have changed. I can no longer be bothered to get dances and pay the money. This may be due to being happy in the relationship I am in or boredom with the whole thing. Probably a mixture of the two.
The liberal in me says that, if they are consenting then it is all right. The slightly older man just thinks: you can knock yourself out, but I cannot be bothered.
There is, however, something very sad about middle aged men getting dances mid-week.