Marriage and Atheism

As I am aware I may have mentioned half a dozen or more times, I am getting married soon. To a lady, Soon-to-be Mrs In Stasis, who shares my total lack of Religious belief. We looked into having a Humanist or Atheist wedding but that technically isn’t legal in Ireland and all the Civil registrar’s were booked well into next year.
So, we looked at what was available and picked someone who came recommended and was free on the day. As it happens we are now to be married by Spiritualists. They basically believe you can talk to the dead. You cannot. They are also Mediums – which is bollocks. But, they seem like genuinely nice people and we can tailor the service to reduce the references to God as much as possible. One would imagine that they have a lot of people of no, or little, faith so will not be surprised or even arsed.
Having a service that is classed, technically, as Religious and having avowed Atheistic views does make one feel like something of a hypocrite. But, I believe that the words she believes are meaningful are meaningless. I believe that I am marrying for the right reasons. And the words are merely that; words. They will allow us to be legally married. And that is all I honestly care about.


About poetryinstasis

I am a long haired, infrequent blogger and Literature enthusiast. I also watch an unhealthy amount of Football (Soccer) and am the rarest of things as I support my local team. "I paint myself because I am so often alone and because I am the subject I know the best" Frida Kahlo
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3 Responses to Marriage and Atheism

  1. My wife and I were married before a Justice of the Peace, probably an equivalent of your civil registrar. Despite not being a religious figure, he had never done a non-religious ceremony. I asked him for a copy of what he did have, which he provided, and I rewrote it removing all religious references and throwing in Shakespeare in place of Bible verses. The sonnets are wonder source material for something like this. The Justice was so happy to have a non-religious ceremony he asked if he could offer it as an option to other people.

    • I think necessity could make hypocrites of us all. But, a bit like you did we are going to tailor the service. Oh, and I read your blog and it’s very good.

      • It doesn’t have to be considered a religious ceremony, especially after having it tailored. It’s your wedding, not the churches, not the person marrying you. After all, it’s merely a social custom, and that is what makes us humans unique, isn’t it?

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